If you love something, set it free. If it comes back, it's yours. If it does not come back, it was never meant to be.
~Unknown
When Letting Go Hurts
by Mystiblu/Fran Hafey
I can remember times when I had to let go of something I loved, and it hurt.
What about when we must let go of someone we love?
What circumstance would we have that would make us have to give up someone we love?
I have two beautiful daughters and a son. I have wonderful relationships with them. Years ago, when I was going through a divorce, my ex-husband got very nasty and lost sight of love and he took my daughters away. They were two and a half and five. The circumstances that led to this horrible act were neither right nor wrong, but it still happened.
My heart was almost broken. I hurt horribly to have two people that were a part of my heart, soul and body, ripped from me the way they were, in the middle of the night. I suffered and cried for many years. My spirit ached.
A year or so after they were gone I met a wonderful man, fell in love and had a son. This helped ease my pain. I love them dearly, but I still felt the empty spot in my heart. I was not able to Mother my daughters the way I wanted, but I was blessed to spend time with them. Their Father was always filled with such hatred and pain. I still loved him as a person, although I did not love his acts of hate.
I was an adult, and I acted with love for my daughters. I worked hard to change and be a better person. But, deep down inside, I hurt because I knew I had done nothing wrong, but to be human. I made mistakes too.
I feel I let my daughters go in a sense, so that they would have a better life, instead of watching the fighting and hate going on all around them. I let them go, so that I could grow and be a better person too. They were never very far, they were always in my heart.
It took time for me to forgive myself and to let go of that pain. I had to learn to love again in many ways, but I let go of hate and sorrow so my daughters could feel my love I had so deeply for them.
Today, as I grow Spiritually, I sometimes wish I had known then, what I know now, but I also have learned that all things happen for a reason. I would not change one thing in my past. I know that pain and letting go have made me who I am today.
I have now chosen to look at those painful memories differently. I have let go of the hurt and the sadness and the "what ifs" and I am blessed to have healthy, wonderful relationships with my children.
I learned a lot in those years and now share with others how to have their own personal power, to get it and keep it. Others can do hurtful things to us, but we don't have to accept them, we can fight back with love and we can let go of so much of what hurts us. We can love ourselves enough to know we do not deserve to be treated badly. We can stand up for our rights and our beliefs, without harming others.
Sometimes we have to let go of those we love in order to learn and move on. Whether it's letting go of a loved one through death or separation, letting the other person in our relationship grow or perhaps just for a short time, when we are not able to be together for different circumstances.
I know I am here right now, typing this story, because I chose to let go of the pain in my life. I have learned unconditionally, there is a time for everything, there is a reason for all things and I choose to let go of the pain and live life fully.
Sent with love and light,
Mystiblu~
If these messages touched your heart or spirit, please feel free to let Mysti know at Mystiblu@earthink.net
January 5, 2003 © Mystickblue Copyright © All Rights Reserved
About the Author
Fran Hafey (Mysti) is a Healer, Writer, Spiritual Counselor, Consultant, Earth and animal activist. She lives in the woods and mountains in Virginia with her husband, dogs and birds.
She provides guidance and inspiration via her Website, groups, ezine's and newsletter on the World Wide Web. To read more of her articles visit the Author's Website: http://Mystickblue.com
She is currently working on her own books about love and inspiration, miracles and magic and nature stories for Children of all ages. Keep in touch, for all the many changes and Spiritual growth~
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